Ever since I started meditation, I’ve come to the understanding that our experiences are our own. Just because something turned out one way for you doesn’t necessarily mean it will turn out the same for another. I bear witness to that.
But I will say, if you start to see things continuously not go your way, stop, get out of what your doing. Get away from your fiends and influence, even if that means family. Take some time away. Go for a hike, go fishing, jogging, to the gym. Do anything that gets your mind off of your troubles. Take the time to be honest with you. Believe in yourself. Truly believe. See the outcome you want in your minds eye, and live it. This is how the magic happens.